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I have heard one too many statements that suggest that men MUST cheat:
“Men, you can not trust them!”
“Man pikin na man pikin!”
I have heard this over and over again from people who are firm believers in the concept that, “All men cheat.” All the people preaching this message I have a question for you: did you conduct a poll that involved ALL men? Did you sample ALL men? How then did you arrive at the conclusion that the ALL cheat? Brainwashing at it’s peak! Even when a woman comes out to say her husband doesn’t cheat, people laugh at her and say he has done a good job at hiding it.
So here is my question: do all men really cheat? Do men really have no control over testoterone? Are they so weak that they can’t zip up? Are they ‘wired’ to cheat?
This believe that “men must cheat” has led many women to accept their cheating husbands as their inevitable fate. Ha! What is our generation turning into? I know the devil really likes when this “men must cheat” gospel is preached because it downplays the value of marriage. And marriage is a very sacred institution. When a marriage is right, it is a great asset to the society. This is what the devil doesn’t like so he would fight it in various ways.
People have even succumbed to ‘lesser’ evils like, “if he cheats and still takes care of you, then you have a good man.” Wait… did the definition of GOOD change? What is good about about a man that fails to be loyal to his life partner?
Cheating is not inevitable. And no, not all men cheat. There are men who either because of personal choices or their relationship with God have chosen not to cheat. Simple. They exist.
If you are a single lady, hoping to get married, you need more than just a man that ‘fears God’. You need a man who has a healthy relationship with God and prioritises Him over everything. When you go and marry a man you met at the club, why will he not cheat? When you focus on outward appearance more than strong virtues in choosing a life partner you are on a loooooong thing. No matter how beautiful you are or how much you do ‘it’ in a day if the man wants to eat Ogbono outside, your skills wont stop him. Have you not seen some of the curviest, everything-in-the-right place women being cheated on? It takes more than well applied make up to keep a man from cheating. You need GOD. Build your marriage on GOD. Don’t only bring God in only when the marriage gets sour. What other foundation can be laid apart from Jesus? Stand on Christ, the solid rock from the word go. Hook up with a man that does same, not some swaggerlicious boy with trousers hanging down his butt. Na swagger go weather the storms?
And these men jumping upandan with wandering third legs, stop finding solace by saying men must cheat. Are you so dump that you can’t tell your third leg when it stay calm? Men of integrity don’t do that s#!^.
Everyone has the ability to exercise self-control. Let’s stop preaching this gospel of, “all men cheat” and polluting the future generation. It is a lie. By the way, women cheat too. Saaah!