About competition as a blogger

TO COMPETE OR NOT TO COMPETE?

Can I be brutally honest with you? When I started blogging years ago, I did not foresee the competition that will follow. I blogged for the pure joy of it, churning out articles and recipes that made me happy.

Then after a while, probably due to how much my blog had grown, I noticed I had competition. Ta da! Now I didn’t see what was clearly competition as “competition” at first. I saw it purely as a much needed addition to what I was doing. I was like, “yes, this is what I want! I want more people like me to inspire others.”

But… this was way beyond more people coming to inspire others like me.

It became more like people wanting to be me.

What do you do when you publish a recipe and shortly after, someone publishes the same recipe targeting basically the same audience as you?

Or what do you say when you visit a blog to read and you notice that most of the language and writing style is trying to mimic yours?

Or when you open social media and you find your timeline flooded with all sorts of rivalry.

Or when someone watermarks their photos with exactly the same font as yours. And you know it’s not just a coincidence because you’ve seen them trying to mimic you repeatedly over a course of time.

I am like “dude, don’t you have your own path? Don’t you have your own uniqueness?”

A popular saying stipulates that “imitation is the greatest form of flattery”. But I didn’t feel flattered by this copycatism. Instead, it left a sick feeling in my belly. So what did I do? I tried to fight back… because oh well, someone was trying to take my place. I tried to produce more content, to stay more relevant and ensure that my audience stayed connected to me.

To tell you the truth, it sucked. And I told myself that if I continued to fight back, I was not different from a pastor who complained about another pastor stealing his “sheep” (that’s church members).

When my work becomes about trying to counteract what someone is doing probably to rival me, I totally loose the joy and essence of it. My blog is my bond and not a place to fight against A, B or C.

However, while advising myself this way, I couldn’t help but wonder. To compete or not to compete?

It is tricky for me because my blog is both a business and a ministry. And in business, you have to deal with competition. I’m not sure I can say the same for ministry.

Then I came across Galatians 5:20 which clearly sites “rivalries” or “emulations” as a work of the flesh:

“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” Galatians 5:19-21, KJV

This did it for me. I clearly saw that rivalry is not of God. And to tell you the truth, I feel spiritually drained and unconnected to God when I try to compete.

On the other hand, this doesn’t mean being passive about my work. Scripture says, “Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.” I Corinthians 10:12, KJV

So at anytime if I think I am standing, or I have “arrived” I should be careful because I just may fall. To me this means, working hard and pouring my best into my blog constantly – not because of trying to rival someone else but because I am required by God to be diligent in everything I do.

One thing God had constantly reminded me of is that there is never a protagonist without an antagonist. We see this in every story. There is Jesus then there is the devil. There is Joseph then his brothers.

The wonderful thing is that while your antagonist tries to pull you down, God uses their antics to lift you up. God also uses their antics to distinguish you. Because, you know your work won’t stand out if there’s no one trying to fight against it.

Also, no one can hinder God’s plan in your life. See what they did to Joseph in the Bible. His brothers threw him in the pit because of his dreams that predicted that he would stand out among his brothers. But the pit and the prison did not stop his destiny. His dreams came to pass!

These are truths that have inspired me. May every competition only bring out the best in you.

So what’s your take? To compete or not to compete? How do you deal with competition and/or comparison in your everyday life? Let’s talk.pre-signature-pro

23 Comments

  1. Yvonne Chi

    You got it right dear.No man can hinder God’s divine purpose for your life,their efforts will only push you further ahead!Gen 20:50:And as for you,ye meant it for evil against me but God meant it for good,to bring to pass,as it is this day,to save much people alive.Keep your calm,keep your eyes on the goal and your hands on the steering wheel.Keep going!xoxo

  2. Thanks so much Precious for all the writeups. I must say they have all been an inspiration to me. Most at times am too caught up with work to drop a comment. The topic to compete or not really touches me. I will say do not strive to compete but only give the best out of you for that is what will always make you stand out and others be a photocopy of you. The real you even though mimicked can never be you. That is me when I notice someone else is trying to do as I do and making it seeming like we are competing. My take!

    • Glad the topic resonates with you, Ngummy!
      You are so right when you say no one can ever be like you no matter how they try. We are all made unique by God. Competition could steer us in the wrong direction and make us follow a lane that isn’t ours. Thanks for sharing, dear.

  3. It’s a “crazy” world and I can totally relate with you. Competition should not make you stop the good work you are doing. However use it as a motivation to bring out the best in you. It’s true it’s could be really emotionally draining. So what I do is; I put in my best everyday and hope for the best in the future. Most importantly I try not a to worry about the future

    • Hi Awa, it is indeed a crazy world.
      We can totally flip competition and use it to only make us better. It is actually a blessing in disguise. I love your approach – “put in my best everyday and hope for the best in the future.”
      Thanks darling!

  4. ……”but the pit and the prison did not stop his destiny and his dreams came to pass”
    For the blog rivalries Precious. For me this is a word in due season. I needed it to uplift my spirit. You have no idea Ma’am. God bless you.
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  5. I love this, thanks for sharing these deep reflections. God’s got us in the palm of His hands!!

  6. Hi precious! I found your blog from foodgawker and I have to say you are doing amazing and I really don’t see this competition you are speaking of. One advice i have is that you keep being amazing, keep running don’t look to the side or back because that’s when you lose from distraction.

    Also I saw you yesterday at the workshop for bloggers and just had to come say hey girl! Keep up the work hun!

    Friedchickenandlemonade.com

    • Awww, Erica!
      Thanks so much girl!
      I’m taking your advice to heart. I’ll keep looking ahead and pressing towards the goal. And thank you for stopping by my blog!

  7. Honestly Precious, I love your blog and this article just reminded me why. I typically have my recipes planned months ahead, so when I see someone with bigger guns “copying” me, I feel a little sore, but like you said, no one can stop God’s plan for your life. I’ve never looked at that term “emulations” in Galatians like that before and I’ll be sure to take note. This is also challenging me to be sure to give credit even for inspiration. God bless you sister!

    • Hi Lois,
      I learned so much from your comment! Yes to planning months ahead! And thanks for the tip on giving credit for inspiration. It is so much better when we say A or B inspired this recipe rather than trying to take the credit for a recipe idea that was inspired by someone else. May we keep forging ahead in spite of the challenges. Thanks for the love, girl! Thank you!

  8. Rosalyn Tamo Achu

    I personally love your blog. Please don’t stop, and like you said, it’s ministry and God will surely lift you up as you follow his word and work by using your gifts the way you already are. Remain blessed. ?

  9. Sis! It’s amazing the lengths people will go to to copy you. Wow! But this cannot dull your shine, as everyone has said, what God has for you cannot be copied. So just ignore! You’re doing so so well honestly and it can only get better! Xx

    Kachee | KacheeTee.com

  10. To not compete.. but to find ways to improve yourself is the way to go about anything in life at all..including blogging. Precious, you do well with blogging and you should keep moving forward. God’s plan for everyone is always unique and in the end you’d have a unique story to tell.

    http://www.zinnyfactor.com

    • You are right, Zinny! God’s plan for every one of us is so unique.
      When you find your path and you are walking in it there is no need to compete with someone else.
      Thanks dear.

  11. These things happen eventually. I remember Sisi Yemmie complain about it once. My mindset is that no one can feign originality. Just go ahead and do your thing. Some have been inspired by you but don’t know there’s a difference between getting inspired and downright copying. Just do your thing and compete with yourself. That’s all that’s needed. You are doing great, dear. http://www.bubusboulevard.com

  12. This article right here is golden. Thank you for writing. Don’t I just love you.

    They can copy your work but they CANNOT copy your spirit: Your passion.

    “No one can hinder God’s plan in your life.” True that!

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