Dear single lady,
I’ll start off by telling you that you are beautiful just the way you are. Yes, just the way you are. You’ve been exceptionally woven like a well-crafted basket. You are royalty; the daughter of the King! Don’t let anyone tell you the opposite because you are indeed a master piece.
My beautiful lady, the best gift you can give yourself is to fall in love with yourself. And when you think you have loved yourself so much, fall in love with yourself all over again. Make a meal for yourself and set a table for one. Buy yourself a treat for your birthday. Love you, because you deserve it.
I know society puts pressure on you to get married. Don’t allow them push you into a pit. Marriage is a beautiful thing but don’t get into it out of pressure. If you rush in, you are likely to rush out. Therefore take your time and pick your mate. Apart from the decision to follow Jesus, your choice of a life partner is next biggest decision you will ever make so don’t rush it.
Avoid dating that man who has a lot of baggage because you think time is running out. There is no expiry date stamped on you so don’t settle for less. Marry a man who loves God. Don’t date in the stables when you were made for the castle.
Your mates may have all gotten married and had kids yet it is important for you to take your time. Don’t try to compete because comparison kills joy. Avoid temporal and quick fixes like one-night stands and pre-marital sex. That will only leave you empty because you are looking for something far more deep and profound than that.
Dear single lady, in these days of ‘aloneness’, spend time to find yourself. Know your Creator and commune with Him. Know who you are and be confident with who you are.
Learn the skill of being happy and don’t let anything put you down. If you wallow in depression, your potential mate might not want you. If you keep spewing negativity, your company might not be appealing. Learn to be content and let that radiate all over you.
It is okay to desire marriage. It is okay to desire companionship and a family of your own. What is wrong is being desperate about it or trying to negate it. Don’t go into public spheres and make ridiculous statements like, “what is marriage sef?”
It’s okay to be vulnerable because vulnerability is powerful. It is okay to feel sad sometimes. It is okay to cry. Sometimes you will be strong, sometimes you will be weak. But always make sure you wipe your tears and rise again stronger than ever.
Be the kind of woman that men love to chase…. and let the men chase you. Be approachable but not flirtatious. Know that there are men and there are boys. Forget garri boys. Forget the ex that got married. You are better than that.
You are worthy. You are valued. You are the daughter of a king. Always remember that.
Love,
Shasha Rshan says
May 5, 2016 at 7:01 pmVery empowering read. Currently in the stage of finding myself, loving myself and as a woman, its unavoidable to think about how finding a partner would be.
Thank you!!!
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Precious Nkeih says
May 5, 2016 at 7:04 pmThere's nothing like finding and loving yourself. Thanks for dropping a comment, Shasha!
Joy2Endure says
May 6, 2016 at 1:51 amWeri be garri boi Pre?
Powerful read I love this line ***Avoid dating that man who has a lot of baggage because you think time is running out. There is no expiry date stamped on you so don't settle for less. Marry a man who loves God. Don't date in the stables when you were made for the castle.***
Thanks for a timely and encouraging read.
Precious Nkeih says
May 6, 2016 at 3:26 amGarri boi na boi wey still dey up up.
I'm glad this encouraged you, sis. Thanks for taking time to comment.
Ayandol Ayanleke says
May 6, 2016 at 9:05 amTrue. Finding joy in singleness is the best you can do for yourself.
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Precious Nkeih says
May 6, 2016 at 9:07 amIndeed Ayandol!
Mimi Chinonso says
May 6, 2016 at 9:25 pmI really needed this, thanks for this inspiring post
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Precious Nkeih says
May 6, 2016 at 9:41 pmMimi, this warms my heart.
Tiffany Mason says
June 8, 2016 at 2:35 pmThank you for this open letter to us Single Ladies. It is much appreciated to get that encouragement because what we go through is real. It's like I want to be married and it hurts when people inadvertently cause me to feel bad because I am single. I get asked SO much why I am single and if I want to have kids. It gets frustrating at times because I do want those things, but I have no control over it. Anyway, thanks for your encouragement.
Precious Nkeih says
June 8, 2016 at 3:33 pmHi Tiffany, there are some things we just don't have that much control over. You can prepare all you can but you can't always tell when the right person will come along. So it is helpful to make the most out of your waiting period and shun societal pressure. Waiting is hard if all you do is wait. I pray the right man finds you in due time.
Thanks for sharing your experience, dear.
Anonymous says
July 8, 2016 at 1:39 pmHi Precious thanks so much for reminding single ladies to wait patiently, i like your write up it has added up my day. You know am the only girl in my family who is still not having a baby or married i want to wait for God's time WAITING not that easy what are the tricks of waiting patiently
Anonymous says
July 8, 2016 at 2:42 pmHello Precious, thank you for the beautifully written piece.The family and peer pressure is so real one needs special Grace not to succumb.
Precious Nkeih says
July 8, 2016 at 3:01 pmI can imagine what it feels like to have all eyes on you, waiting for the day you will bring a man to them. Not easy at all. I'll say this dear: waiting is hard when all you do is wait. Get busy while waiting.
-Focus on God and your relationship with Him.
-Seek ways you can beautify your life. Esther went through a beautifying period of several months before she met the king. Eve was formed before God presented her to Adam. Let God form you. He might ask you to change certain habits, He may lead you to serve Him in different ways. You'll most likely meet your husband when you are in active service for the Lord.
-Pray. I used to pray for my future husband every Friday before meeting Mr N. I prayed that God will help him love God more than anything else. That was my number 1 request and I know it helped.
-Do not worry about a thing. The Bible says "be anxious for nothing." Instead pray about everything.
I just said a prayer for you, my dear. If you would like us to talk more you can inbox me at info(at)preciouscore(dot)com.
Precious Nkeih says
July 8, 2016 at 3:11 pmYou're welcome, my dear.
May God help you not to settle for the stables when you were made for the castle.
LIZY ELI says
September 12, 2016 at 4:27 pmthanks for this hmmmmmmmmmmmmm i love myself nothing can put me down i am a daughter of a king. i know who i am.
Precious Nkeih says
September 13, 2016 at 4:09 amAmen. You are the daughter of the King of kings.
Abbie says
November 19, 2018 at 6:52 pmNice writeup