AN OPEN LETTER TO SINGLE LADIES
Published May 05, 2016
Updated Apr 26, 2017
This post may contain affiliate links. Please read our disclosure policy.
Dear single lady,
I’ll start off by telling you that you are beautiful just the way you are. Yes, just the way you are. You’ve been exceptionally woven like a well-crafted basket. You are royalty; the daughter of the King! Don’t let anyone tell you the opposite because you are indeed a master piece.
My beautiful lady, the best gift you can give yourself is to fall in love with yourself. And when you think you have loved yourself so much, fall in love with yourself all over again. Make a meal for yourself and set a table for one. Buy yourself a treat for your birthday. Love you, because you deserve it.
I know society puts pressure on you to get married. Don’t allow them push you into a pit. Marriage is a beautiful thing but don’t get into it out of pressure. If you rush in, you are likely to rush out. Therefore take your time and pick your mate. Apart from the decision to follow Jesus, your choice of a life partner is next biggest decision you will ever make so don’t rush it.
Avoid dating that man who has a lot of baggage because you think time is running out. There is no expiry date stamped on you so don’t settle for less. Marry a man who loves God. Don’t date in the stables when you were made for the castle.
Your mates may have all gotten married and had kids yet it is important for you to take your time. Don’t try to compete because comparison kills joy. Avoid temporal and quick fixes like one-night stands and pre-marital sex. That will only leave you empty because you are looking for something far more deep and profound than that.
Dear single lady, in these days of ‘aloneness’, spend time to find yourself. Know your Creator and commune with Him. Know who you are and be confident with who you are.
Learn the skill of being happy and don’t let anything put you down. If you wallow in depression, your potential mate might not want you. If you keep spewing negativity, your company might not be appealing. Learn to be content and let that radiate all over you.
It is okay to desire marriage. It is okay to desire companionship and a family of your own. What is wrong is being desperate about it or trying to negate it. Don’t go into public spheres and make ridiculous statements like, “what is marriage sef?”
It’s okay to be vulnerable because vulnerability is powerful. It is okay to feel sad sometimes. It is okay to cry. Sometimes you will be strong, sometimes you will be weak. But always make sure you wipe your tears and rise again stronger than ever.
Be the kind of woman that men love to chase…. and let the men chase you. Be approachable but not flirtatious. Know that there are men and there are boys. Forget garri boys. Forget the ex that got married. You are better than that.
You are worthy. You are valued. You are the daughter of a king. Always remember that.
Love,
Hi Precious thanks so much for reminding single ladies to wait patiently, i like your write up it has added up my day. You know am the only girl in my family who is still not having a baby or married i want to wait for God's time WAITING not that easy what are the tricks of waiting patiently
Hello Precious, thank you for the beautifully written piece.The family and peer pressure is so real one needs special Grace not to succumb.
I can imagine what it feels like to have all eyes on you, waiting for the day you will bring a man to them. Not easy at all. I'll say this dear: waiting is hard when all you do is wait. Get busy while waiting.
-Focus on God and your relationship with Him.
-Seek ways you can beautify your life. Esther went through a beautifying period of several months before she met the king. Eve was formed before God presented her to Adam. Let God form you. He might ask you to change certain habits, He may lead you to serve Him in different ways. You'll most likely meet your husband when you are in active service for the Lord.
-Pray. I used to pray for my future husband every Friday before meeting Mr N. I prayed that God will help him love God more than anything else. That was my number 1 request and I know it helped.
-Do not worry about a thing. The Bible says "be anxious for nothing." Instead pray about everything.
I just said a prayer for you, my dear. If you would like us to talk more you can inbox me at info(at)preciouscore(dot)com.
You're welcome, my dear.
May God help you not to settle for the stables when you were made for the castle.
thanks for this hmmmmmmmmmmmmm i love myself nothing can put me down i am a daughter of a king. i know who i am.
Amen. You are the daughter of the King of kings.
Nice writeup