My friend and I were visiting a church sister who had lost a family member when we heard some of the most discouraging things about marriage. I was 19, fresh out of the university and looking forward to who will marry me. Is that not what we were taught to look forward to when we finish school? Besides, I could cook and clean. How could a girl be more ready?
My bubbles got burst with the conversation that ensued during our visit. As we sat in our little ladies’ corner in that house of mourning, we listened to two married ladies from our church lecture us passively on why marriage is not important. With pale faces and melancholic voices, they lamented on how this thing they had gotten into called marriage wasn’t worth anything.
Then they spoke about that thing. The thing marrried people are supposed to enjoy.
“It is for men nah!”
One of them declared.
“Do we even need that thing???”
One asked rhetorically.
I left that house, quite unsure if I wanted to ever get married. I mean, if these ladies had free and legal access to “that thing” and couln’t even enjoy it then what was the point? I thought “that thing” took people to lala land and made their bodies go tontoli tontoli. What was the point in marrying someone and not even enjoying it. What was the point a man just to serve him and be miserable? My friend and I looked at each other and concluded that we had just taken a course in the marriage discouragement university.
Nowadays, discouraging satements and cues about marriage are present everywhere. Considering how powerful what we see or hear is, these “marriage discouragement universities” could make the single person be anti-marriage and could make the married person, pro-divorce. But I tell you my friend, mariage is one of the sweetest, most thrilling and satisfying experiences a human can ever have.
Without futher ado, here are seven reasons marriage is important:
1. You share your life with someone
The Lord God said, “it is not good for man to be alone” then He made the woman. God, the creator of the universe said aloneness was not good then He instituted marriage. Companionship makes life better. Research had proven that marriage makes people live longer. You don’t have to go through the highs, lows and in-betweens of life alone. You have someone you can go through these things with. “Two are better than one,” Ecclesiastes 4: 9.
Yes, sex. Guilt-free sex with a cherry on top. It relieves stress, makes you feel better about yourself and produces babies. Sex out of marriage is never the same thing. The Bible terms it sexual immorality. It is defiling the body God gave you. Though it may seem pleasurable, it comes with repercussions. But within marriage? Ride on! “Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.” Proverbs 5: 18-19
3. It is a divine idea
God started this thing called marriage and He is a good father. He wants you to be married. It is a gift from Him. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10: 6-9
4. It teaches love
You may begin your marriage by being head-over-heels in love but with time, you will have to learn how to love. And there’s nothing more beautiful than loving intentionally. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” I Corinthians 13: 4-8
5. It is healthy for the nation
A nation with strong marriages is a really strong one. Good marriages are the bedrock of any solid society. “Traditional marriage between a man and woman has been a cornerstone of our society for generations.”
6. It is healthy for kids
Even as an adult, I rejoice that my mama and dada live together and are in love with each other. How much more growing kids? One of the best things a couple can do for kids is to provide them with a strong marital model. When marriages break, kids break. But when marriages are strong, the kids that come from that marriage witness first hand the power of unity.
7. You grow up
Marriage makes you grow up really fast. You get matured because, you now have another human being apart from yourself to deal with. The growing up lessons you learn in marriage can be well applied to other areas of life.
“What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strength each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?”
Go forth and marry/enjoy your marriage!
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