HOW TO HAVE THE PERFECT MARRIAGE
Published Sep 14, 2016
Updated Apr 26, 2017
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Picture this: a man and a woman dancing salsa on stage. Their dance steps are flawless. They are in complete unison. Their moves are so elegant and in sync. They are simply a pleasure to look at. Does this kind of perfection on the dance floor happen overnight?
The answer is a resounding NO!
It takes several hours of practice. It takes blood, sweat and tears. It takes making mistakes, correcting them, falling, rising again and all sorts of physical and emotional stretching to be able to pull through an exhilarating dance performance.
Now picture this: a man and woman who trust each other completely. They are each other’s best friend. They laugh together and play like kids. They stay closer to each other during the storms and seek the best interest of each other. Does this sound like the kind of marriage you would want to have?
Does this kind of marriage happen overnight? The answer is another resounding NO!
Perfection in marriage, just like perfection on the dance floor doesn’t happen overnight. It takes lots of training, lots of tweaking and lots of devotion to have what can be termed the perfect marriage. This analogy, between dancing and marriage as explained by my pastor, really hits home for me.
To have the perfect marriage, your marriage must be built on the author of marriage, who is God. Separate your marriage from God and you will be setting yourself up for disaster. Your marriage must be built on Godly principles and not what the world says. The world has a lot to say about marriage today. A whole lot. A whole of this lot is in direct contrast to the word of God. And sadly, many Christians are buying it because it is humanly pleasing.
Always evaluate your marriage based on what God’s word say. Look at the big picture. The fact that marriage is not just about the here and now. It is pointing us towards something bigger which is Christ’s relationship with the church.
To have the perfect marriage, you must die daily. You must let go of your wants and aspirations to please the other. You can not truly love without dying. You can’t just completely and always be yourself and love deeply. Sometimes you need to let go and let love.
To have the perfect marriage you must invest in your relationship. Switch off your phone, computer and all gadgets to have quality time with your partner. Read marriage books, attend seminars together, go out and have fun! Mr N and I will be going to a marriage seminar this weekend and I couldn’t be more excited! Sitting down to learn from an experienced Christian couple will be a great boost to our relationship.
So if you have been wondering why you don’t just “click” with your partner, always remember that perfection doesn’t happen overnight. You need to:
- Do little things to make your marriage stronger
- Be intentionally happy
- Keep finding reasons to stay married
- Always remember your love story
- Communicate effectively
When you water your marital lawn you will see it blossom. Remember that “a perfect marriage is made up of two imperfect people who just refuse to give up on each other”.
What are the characteristics of a perfect marriage to you? Please share below.
This is great Precious,
Just like anything worthwhile, we need to work at it and invest time to make sure it endures the tough times. I may as well bookmark this for future reference.
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I loved this. It was beautifully written and you know I always love things that have its foundation in God's word. Funny enough, these things you mentioned are the things God has been teaching me personally in my Love walk with Him. In the good times and bad times, I'm going to keep loving Him and remember How He came through for me in the past. Bare myself open to him, my heart for him to see till he melts all of me and I have none of myself but all of Him.
Ive also come to learn that watch how people are faithful with their relationship with God, that will be the blueprint of how their relationship with human beings or spouses will turn out to be. It's that simple. If they don't get the basics of loving God, then they might find it hard to love others the way God wants us to.
Not in that school yet but I do know that it may take a moment to fall in lust, a long while to turn the lust into love and a life time of investment to build on that love and make it stand on solid ground. You are right a song in my Kingdom Hall echoes the word of Eccl 4:12 when we sing 'when God is in a Union, problems will be few'. A three fold cord cannot be easily broken.
That said, I will come back here when and if I join this school someday. In the meantime, keep dancing salsa and keep the flames burning.
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Just found ur blog, I love it and I have bookmarked. Marriage comes with a daily determination to make it work. When the kids start coming, it's easy to slip into the mummy and daddy role and forget to be a lover to your partner. Always be a friend and lover to your partner so as to keep th fire burning.
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Oh aunt Precious! You’ve said it all. As someone aspiring to build a home someday, these are the kind of words I need. Bless you aunty. And congratulations for the birth of baby Essie. May God grant you divine wisdom to raise her and her sisters for His glory.